Life After A Break-Up

People always say don't let it change you. That's the most I've heard during the time of my recent breakup. Why is that though? Why not let it change you? People must understand that things happen for a reason and yes both parties are at fault. For example: He cheated on you, but what did you do to push him away? It takes two to make a relationship work and when it doesn't work out, we need to stop blaming, stop making excuses, and live up to our fault. So maybe, just maybe, you need to change and you need to work on yourself. Sometimes giving to much and doing to much is bad. Some people can't handle all of that. A wise person once told me, being in charge of your life is pressuring enough so why would you want someone or even put someone in charge of yours? So when you're coping after picking up the pieces of your life, it may be best to leave some of those pieces on the ground because they're the reason you're hurting. People always connect change with something bad. Change isn't bad, it's different. People hate what they don't understand. With that being said, don't be the average person. Just because it's out of our element doesn't mean it can't be good.